The Networking Barrier: Why It’s Easier to Give Help Than to Ask for It

Why is it so much easier to give help than to ask for it?

So many of us are quick to help when asked --> We give referrals. We share advice. And we feel good when we can pay it forward.

And yet, when the tables turn and we’re the ones job searching, asking for help can make us feel vulnerable. Awkward. Even a little bit scared.

The irony is that networking is one of the most effective ways to land a role (especially in this market)!

I worked with a client earlier this year who admitted he struggled reaching out. We talked through what it really means to ask for help:

-->You’re giving someone the chance to share what they know.
-->You’re creating an opening for connection.
-->You're making space for someone to feel good for having helped another.

Once he shifted his perspective, he leaned into networking in a new way, and he recently landed a role he’s thrilled about! He told me that reframing his mindset around asking was the game-changer.

If you’re in a job search right now, I’d encourage you to try this reframing: helping you is as an opportunity for them to contribute and connect, it’s not a burden. Most people genuinely want to help!